Jennifer Hanes MS, RDN, LD
January is National Thank You Month. There are many people in the world that we should be saying “thank you” to. Literally anyone in a service or healthcare industry. Teachers. First Responders. People who hold open doors or let you go before them in line.
But in the time of punishing New Year’s Resolutions (Whole30, anyone?) I think you should also say “Thank You” to yourself.
So what do you have to say thank you to yourself for?
Thank Yourself for the strength it took to get through 2020
It’s been a hard year for literally everyone. As our world has been turned upside down, we’ve become creative and determined to persevere in these weird challenges we’ve been given.
Thank yourself for all you did to keep yourself, your family, and your community safe.
You’ve been wearing your mask, right?
Thank Yourself for those times you were kind when no one was looking
Did you mow the neighbors’ lawn while they were at work? Make food for your essential worker friends and family? Increase your charitable donations?
You deserve to be thanked for that. And there’s no one better to do so!
Thank Yourself for the awesome skills you spent time and effort developing
In spite of, or rather due to, the pandemic, many of us have learned new skills. Or even honed skills we already had.
What new skill did you learn that will serve you throughout the next few years?
Can you now cook a healthy meal instead of frequenting fast food and take-out restaurants?
Have you learned a new technique for managing your stress? Or created a full-proof time or project management system?
You’ll be thanking yourself for years to come.
Thank Yourself for forgiving someone else
Sometimes the best thing you can do is forgive someone, as the mental load of anger can take its toll.
Have you done that this year?
Thank Yourself for taking the time to heal
Have you worked towards improving your mental or physical health? Because the two are so intertwined, sometimes helping one inadvertently helps the other.
For example, if you started exercising to improve your anxiety, you probably also improved your cardiovascular health.
Or maybe you decided to eat more healthily and your symptoms of depression are a bit easier to manage.
Either way, congratulate and thank yourself for taking action.
Thank Yourself for the measures you take to keep yourself and your family safe, happy, and healthy
There’s so much you do that impacts your family, and you may not realize it.
Have you increased movement for fun, rather than purely for exercise?
You provide food, a place to live, and other necessities to your family, and you should be thanked for that.
Thank Yourself for working towards your goals
Even if you haven’t met them yet.
One of my mantras is “Progress, not perfection.”
What have you made progress on? Thank yourself for getting closer to your goals.
Thank Yourself for when you were bold. And when you were cautious
That time a spur-of-the-moment decision was worth it?
Or when you passed on a good offer because it seemed off?
Thank yourself for both
This feels silly, why should I do it?
Does just reading this make you feel a little self-conscious? Why should you spend your time on this?
Crowds out the negative self-talk
How can you think negatively when you just thanked yourself for something awesome?
When you receive a thank you, it encourages you to do it again.
Positive thoughts lead to positive actions, just like negative words lead to negative actions.
Reduces the need for validation from outside sources
Who needs a thank you from someone unwilling to give it when you already know you did good?
Improves your self-esteem
Every time you thank yourself, or even just acknowledge when you did something good, you boost your self-esteem and validate yourself even without input from someone else.
Encourages you to continue to strive for improvement
When you do something that gives you confidence, you’ll strive to continue that achievement.
So pat yourself on the back when you take the next step towards your long-term goals. You’ll be more likely to keep pushing forward.
How to show gratitude to Yourself
- By flower to brighten up your workspace
- Write out a list of what you’re thankful for
- Get your nails done
- Say “yes” when someone offers you dessert
- Brag on social media
- Take a walk and enjoy your surroundings
- Think of 2 positives for every negative complaint
- Learn a yummy new recipe
What do you think?
Will this be your next New Year’s Resolution? Maybe it should be!